22.06.2024 /

Here’s *exactly* what you should do if you get ghosted

Let’s be real, ghosting f*cking sucks.

You’re vibing with someone, the conversation is flowing, maybe even a few sparks fly… and then poof, they vanish into the digital ether. No explanation, no goodbye, just radio silence. It’s enough to make anyone question their sanity (and their dating profile, she looked so sweet!).

But before you spiral into a self-doubt abyss, and decide to give dating up for GOOD. Let’s upack this phenomenon. Why do people ghost? And more importantly, how can you deal with it like a champ and keep your dating game strong?

 

Why ghosts haunt the dating scene

Ghosting, while frustrating, is often less about you and more about the ghoster’s own issues. Here are a few common reasons:

  • Fear of confrontation: Some people simply lack the courage or communication skills to end things directly. Ghosting seems like an easier (albeit cowardly) way out.
  • Emotional immaturity: They might not be ready for a serious relationship or don’t know how to handle their feelings.
  • Overwhelmed or distracted: Life happens. They might be dealing with personal issues, work stress, or other distractions that make dating take a backseat.
  • They’re just not that into you: Ouch, it stings. But sometimes, the chemistry just isn’t there, and they don’t know how to say it.

 

Ghostbusting 101: How to handle the disappearing act

  • Don’t take it personally: Easier said than done, but remember, ghosting is usually a reflection of the ghoster’s own shortcomings, not yours.
  • Give them the benefit of the doubt (initially): Maybe they lost their phone, got hit by a bus (hopefully not!), or are dealing with a crisis. Give it a few days before jumping to conclusions.
  • Reach out (once): If you haven’t heard from them after a reasonable amount of time, send a casual message to check in. If they don’t respond, move on.
  • Don’t chase ghosts: Bombarding them with messages or trying to track them down will only make you look desperate and won’t change the outcome.
  • Focus on yourself: Instead of dwelling on the ghosting, invest your energy into yourself, your hobbies, friends and meeting new people.

 

Turning lemons into margaritas.

Believe it or not, ghosting can actually be a valuable lesson in disguise. It can teach you:

  • Your worth: You deserve someone who communicates openly and respectfully, not someone who disappears without a trace.
  • Self-awareness: Reflect on your dating patterns and whether you’re attracting people who aren’t emotionally available or ready for a relationship.
  • Resilience: Bouncing back from rejection is a crucial life skill. Each ghosting experience can make you stronger and more confident in the long run.

 

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